(Law books) How do men handle social status?
No commentsBy Dr. Jennifer Lagrotte, DMFT,
Life and its expectations; or rather, our social expectations of us. Whether we realize it or not, even in this day and age, we are raised with certain ideas about what our most basic purpose is going to be in life. It is natural, as similar roles have been focused on for as long as humans have walked to earth, for girls to be seen as future wives and mothers and boys to be future fathers and providers for the family. While there have been some exceptions in the past, it has only been within the last little while that women are starting to break their traditional roles and do more on their own. Unfortunately, this can leave men out in the cold wondering where their purpose begins in life.
While expectations and views are changing drastically in the western world, the basic views still, somewhat, exist. Men, naturally, are the providers and feel that they have to be able to look after their family; at least the ones who decide to take on the role as a husband and/or a father. While nature’s expectations of them still ring out loud and clear, society’s expectations can have quite the pull as well. It has always been that the more money one makes, the more possessions they have and the better social standing they have, the better appearance they have in their society. The better their appearance and standing, the better off the family tends to be. Unfortunately, a man can lose sight of what really matters to him as he works day and night to better himself and his family based on what society dictates. It is often a regret that many men have when they look back on their life and realize that they were too busy with work to spend time with their children. Some men do not even get the chance to have any children, because they have never given the time for a strong relationship with a woman that would last long enough. Then, there are men who had made the decision to commit to a relationship, but then later forgot about taking the time to keep in touch or build on that relationship because work always filled their mind first.
Waiting until one is forty before really focusing on what one actually deems as important to them in life, beyond all the material things, is too long. By then, the damage may be irreparable. However, if one takes the time to step back, look at their life and realize what they may be missing, then it is possible that relationships can be mended and changes can be made in order to live life the way it was meant to be. Living life for what is important to one in their heart is often more rewarding than one’s life where they have achieved all the material goals but have no one to share or enjoy it with. For those worried about losing their path in life, or who feel that they may be losing focus, seeking the advice of an online counselor or online therapist could be very helpful. Online therapy can help guide one in altering their life and or their views when determining what it is that they really want out of life. Speaking with an online counselor can also help one see if they need to focus more on their personal relationships with a significant other and/or any children involved within that relationship. It is well and good to fulfill one’s natural purpose in life, but when it comes to ensuring that the heart gets what it needs, sometimes some extra care needs to be taken so that one does not look back on their past with a heavy feeling of regret.
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Scarborough Youth Come To Believe In HYPE
By Marcus
Choosing to sacrifice some summer fun for an educational future, 147 local youth joined Centennial’s award-winning HYPE (Helping Youth Pursue Education) program this year to sample a rich learning experience at no cost to them.
The youth, aged 13 to 29, primarily from the Scarborough neighborhoods of Malvern, Kingston-Galloway and Scarborough Village, participated in six career-oriented courses - in automobile repair, food services, child studies, office administration, business entrepreneurship and esthetics - over the past six weeks.
The HYPE Class of 2009 was recognized at a special graduation ceremony at the Progress Campus Student Centre on August 13. The students heard some inspiring words from keynote speaker Nation Cheong of the Youth Challenge Fund, as well as from valedictorian Sheldon Blackbourne.
“I learned to smile here,” Sheldon was quoted as saying in a Toronto Sun article. “I didn’t understand the importance of education and finishing school. Fortunately, I’ve found many options through the HYPE program.” Having sampled the college experience this summer, Sheldon plans to enroll in Centennial’s Child and Youth Worker program this fall and become a social worker.
For some, participating in the program is the first positive school experience they’ve had in a long time. The initiative is rooted in Toronto Mayor David Miller’s Community Safety Plan, designed to bring programming to youth living in under-serviced neighborhoods of the city. Centennial worked with local community service agencies to identify youth who could benefit from the career programming. Now in its sixth year, HYPE also received a lot of positive word-of-mouth from local residents, which helped generate 220 applications for this year’s intake.
For some, participating in the program is the first positive school experience they’ve had in a long time. The initiative is rooted in Toronto Mayor David Miller’s Community Safety Plan, designed to bring programming to youth living in under-serviced neighborhoods of the city. Centennial worked with local community service agencies to identify youth who could benefit from the career programming. Now in its sixth year, HYPE also received a lot of positive word-of-mouth from local residents, which helped generate 220 applications for this year’s intake.
Thanks to a large grant - $450,000 over three years - from Michael Clemons’ Youth Challenge Fund, the students were provided with free transportation, textbooks, breakfast and lunch. A generous grant from TD Bank Financial Group allowed HYPE to expand this year to include more participants and mentors, as well as additional training opportunities.
Thanks to a large grant - $450,000 over three years - from Michael Clemons’ Youth Challenge Fund, the students were provided with free transportation, textbooks, breakfast and lunch. A generous grant from TD Bank Financial Group allowed HYPE to expand this year to include more participants and mentors, as well as additional training opportunities.
Students developed individual portfolios that included certification earned in personal and skill development workshops, such as “financial literacy,” presented by volunteer staff from TD Canada Trust. Participants also took part in a variety of social events.
Students developed individual portfolios that included certification earned in personal and skill development workshops, such as “financial literacy,” presented by volunteer staff from TD Canada Trust. Participants also took part in a variety of social events.
The college has expanded its bursary program, awarding each of 40 HYPE participants with a $1,500 bursary when they enroll in full-time studies at Centennial this fall. Last year’s bursary winners will receive $1,000 each to commence the second year of their programs. HYPE is managed by Tony Granato and overseen by Tony Bertin, Manager, Community Outreach Office, of the Student and Community Engagement division.
Marcus, the author, puts forth the advantages that HYPE has brought into the society and that it is also receiving funds from various organizations and companies. It has been working as a child and youth workers and is involved in school of social work as well.
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